Friday Friendship Feature #4
Boys and their Noises
Last week on the Friday Friendship Feature, #3, I shared a post encouraging us to set a consistent Morning Schedule/Ritual time so that we can bless our families. This week’s Friday Friendship Feature focuses in on another aspect of our home life: BOYS and MOMS.
We have three sons! They are different from me. And they often drive me batty.
I could end there, and you’d have a complete picture of my life some days. Seriously. But there is more to say. In our Friday Friendship Feature this time, I have chosen to share an excerpt from a post that really did hit home with me this week.
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Friday Friendship Feature:
Boys–What Can I Say?
Even though I have been married to a male for almost twenty years, and have had the privilege of being a mom to all males for over sixteen years, I am still trying to figure them out. You’d think that I’d almost be an expert on the male gender, since I also grew up with three brothers. These things may help a tiny little bit, but, honestly, not much.
BOYS are a special kind of male. They have not matured yet into manhood, even those in their teens. They are moving in that direction, but still have a lot of boyishness left.
I will tell you a secret
When I was younger, like about twelve years ago, it became obvious that we were an all-boy family. Three little boys, and what energy they exhibited! My mom gave me a book, which I read then, and enjoyed. But…in my naive heart, I said, “My boys will never do that.” THAT, being make loud, obnoxious noises just for the reaction. THAT being also going crazy over the mere mention of bodily odors, noises, or functions. I assured my young mind that those antics belonged to other parent’s kids, but mine would surely act more refined.
Anyone who knows our family can just stop laughing now!
Our boys are all that and more! We are definitely in the stage of noises, and I am in the stage of finding more difficulty concentrating than I used to have. This makes for some tension and trials.
- They make noise just for the sake of noise itself.
- The more the better.
- The grosser the better.
- Times three.
The book that my mom gave me was this one. You can find it on amazon.com (by clicking on the book or link). Somewhere along the way, I passed it to someone else, back in those confident years. I wish I’d have held onto it. I could at least share a good laugh at someone else’s boys instead of crying for my own.
Friday Friendship Feature #4–Your Boys and their Noises–And What to do About Them!
If you can even remotely relate to any of this, I believe you will appreciate the Friday Friendship Feature that I am sharing. Michelle Caskey shares a post entitled, Six Reasons Your Son’s Noises are Driving You Nuts, and Five Ways to Cope! I was hooked right away! I found a kindred spirit in another mom of just boys, and learned some great ideas in this article.
Six Reasons Your Son’s Noises are Driving You Nuts, and Five Ways to Cope!
Do your son’s noises drive you nuts?!? I’m one of those people who can be sitting in church listening to the sermon but when a child behind me starts clicking his pen in and out I can no longer concentrate on what the pastor is saying. And when my sons are tapping their pencil or making goofy noises in the car, it doesn’t take long for me to feel the hairs raising on the back of my neck and I have to ask them to stop.
And even worse, I’ve had times when my boys are goofing around and having a wonderful time laughing and carrying on and I feel myself getting upset with them. I’ve gotten upset when my boys are laughing?!? Yes, you read that right. Can you relate?
6 Reasons Your Son’s Noises are Driving You Nuts!
I recently read an article about something called misophonia. People with misophonia have specific sounds which cause them to feel an immediate negative reaction. These are sounds that are just background noise for most people – but when this person hears the sound they will have a response that can range from moderate discomfort to acute annoyance or even full-fledged rage and panic. Fight or flight reactions can occur.
These sounds can be things like chewing sounds, humming, tapping noises, or even BREATHING!
IMPORTANT: If this is a serious issue in your family and you find yourself feeling anxious or angry by noises on a regular basis, there are ways to retrain your amygdala so that it no longer reacts to these sounds as emergencies and simply passes off the stimulus as to the cerebral cortex to decide how to respond.
Boys and Noise
Why is it that boys tend to be the ones who make the noises and moms tend to be the ones who are irritated by them? There are at least 6 Factors involved:
1 – Females hear better
Women’s hearing is ten times better than that of men. This is a huge factor in causing boys to make noises that are irritating. They often don’t even realize that what they’re doing is making noise!
Our sons do things that don’t make any sense to us and that can be irritating. We sometimes have a hard time figuring them out!
You’ll have to go on over to Homeschool Your Boys to read the whole thing (click the blue link below). Trust me. If you have boys, you need this! I did. And still do. I could read this about every day, then spend some time in prayer over it.
Boys will be boys, as they say, but Moms of boys need a special arsenal, and an extra dose of patience! Read the article, and let me know me what you think!
There is hope for all of us!
Here is a wonderful Bible promise for all parents!
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Blessings to you as you cope with your boys and their noises!