Tools Trump Toys!!
Several years ago, I wrote this post for my homeschooling group. It remains my most popular post and my favorite of all times.
When I transferred my Lessons and Lessons blog over here to Ridge Haven Homestead last year, I assumed that all of my posts had come along. Sadly, this one got lost out there in cyberspace.
Reblog of Tools Trump Toys
So…I have copied this post to bring it over here. It has appeared in a couple of different locations, but it is ? % my writing, and I share it with you to inspire you on your homeschooling, homesteading, and/or parenting journey!
Tools STILL Trump Toys!
An Odd Birthday List?A few weeks ago, my then-ten-year-old son sent me this email: (I purposely did not correct his grammar and punctuation errors so that you could know it is authentic. We can work on those later.)
Hi, how are you doing?
I am doing good.
I want a bird (chickadee) cake for my birthday and strawberry ice cream.
I want to go swimming and roast hot dogs on the fire and have watermelon for lunch on my birthday.
Here is a list of present’s:
- Drill bits
- Garden tools
That’s enough to melt a mother’s heart…Well, my heart smiled, and I immediately sent it to Grandma so that she could share my enjoyment, as well as have a list of birthday suggestions.
Then, I studied the list more and began to wonder, “Are these gifts normal?” Do most soon-to-be-11-year-olds wish for clippers, drills, and garden tools?
Boys and ToysWe have boys. Pretty much from the time they were able to recognize a saw, they used sticks to make pretend ones. You know how it goes: a simple stick can transform into a chainsaw, a sword, or a violin bow, just as quick as the imagination changes gears.
I don’t say that this is unique to boys; they are just what I have to observe. I’ve known little girls to turn a cell phone into a pretend ultrasound probe and scan their daddy’s belly.
Kids just make up pretend tools according to what they are exposed to, because they want to do “real things.” In fact, if you stop to watch little people, many of their games are attempts to copy what their adults do frequently.
It’s no wonder, then, that in our family, when our oldest boy turned nine (a few years ago), he scrimped and saved his dollars to purchase a used lawnmower, so that he could be just like his daddy, who ran a lawn service. Sure, he liked playing with Legos like most boys, but he mostly saved those for the winter months, when he had to be cooped up inside anyway.
He always had a desire to do something useful — build something, make something, or try to figure out how something worked. He led the way in the “Tools over Toys” philosophy that we have preferred since we began our family.
Toys, toys, and more toys…We have never been opposed to toys, but as children grow and multiply, so do their toys! I began to inwardly groan whenever holidays and birthdays rolled around, because really, children don’t need as many toys as they generally have. They are hard to keep organized, and easy to lose.
Thankfully, our extended family has been very respectful in the types of toys shared. As time has gone on, and especially since we are gearing up for a move into smaller living quarters, I have seen our boys begin to evaluate more closely their possessions. Suddenly, we all have to prioritize, and only the most important items get to go along with us!
Big Boy Toys=Tools!I’ve seen many toys go out, and we have shifted to the new era of Big Boy Toys. Big Boy Toys are those that men and boys alike appreciate: power tools, ratchet sets, etc. Once every three weeks or so, my boys will convince me to take them to Harbor Freight Tool Store. I’m afraid I go into that store like my husband would enter a Hobby Lobby — dragging my feet and groaning to myself. I set a timer; otherwise, we’d stay for hours!
Tools, toys and Quality vs Quantity
One reason I go is the very reason I hate to go — I know that a good percentage of what’s sold, or given away for free, in that store is going to be a disappointment. I hate to see good money used up on trifles, but once I’ve stated my opinion of the necessity of some of the freebies, I hold my tongue.
Lessons of Life
Time does teach lessons here — those “free batteries” let you down just when you are getting ready to take that great shot of the eclipse; the “free” headlight really doesn’t provide enough light for your trail; and you can only use so many amazing grabbers!
So, the lessons learned by purchasing or acquiring cheap stuff is a good one, better taught by experience than by parental advice.
Our sons are slowly learning that there is quality to be found, but they may have to wait, pay more, or both, in order to find it.
A Natural Process
Transitioning to real tools instead of toys will likely happen naturally, if the conditions in the home provide opportunities to learn to use them. A girl won’t desire her own rolling pin and apron if she never gets a chance to try out making cookies or looking through cookbooks. Boys who never get to see under a hood of a car will learn to assume someone else should fix the car instead of jumping right in there to see what’s wrong.
But, I was very glad last week with my just-turned-11-year old! We were in town, and my father asked us to drive a homeless man to my parent’s house where we would eat together. Dad and our other son jumped into Dad’s truck and took off!
Well, my car would not start, and the man in our car was elderly and had crippled hands, so I knew he was dependent on us. Our youngest (age 10) hopped out, flipped open the hood, and proceeded to tap the battery; then when that didn’t work, he dug out the jumper cables from the trunk and helped the other man who stopped to help us.
I felt very proud that our sons had learned some basic lessons (informally) under the hood. It’s because Daddy has allowed them to watch and help that they feel confident to at least try some basic repairs.
Practical Training Pays Off!
In our homeschools, one goal is to graduate our children with the knowledge they will need to do practical work once they leave our supervision. So, practical training is vital to their success in life.
There are many recommendations in the Spirit of Prophecy about practical training. We have been reading through the book Education, and the chapter on “Manual Training” is very useful for this topic.
A few nuggets that I dug up are these:
“When children reach a suitable age, they should be provided with tools. If their work is made interesting, they will be found apt pupils in the use of tools. If the father is a carpenter, he should give his boys lessons in house building, ever bringing into his instruction lessons from the Bible, the words of Scripture in which the Lord compares human beings to His building,” Child Guidance, p. 356.
“Your means could not be used to better advantage than in providing a workshop furnished with tools for your boys, and equal facilities for your girls. They can be taught to love labor,” Healthful Living, p.137.1.
“While attending school the youth should have an opportunity for learning the use of tools. Under the guidance of experienced workmen, carpenters who are apt to teach, patient, and kind, the students themselves should erect buildings on the school grounds and make needed improvements, thus by practical lessons learning how to build economically. The students should also be trained to manage all the different kinds of work connected with printing, such as typesetting, presswork, and book binding, together with tentmaking and other useful lines of work. Small fruits should be planted, and vegetables and flowers cultivated, and this work the lady students may be called out of doors to do. Thus, while exercising brain, bone, and muscle, they will also be gaining a knowledge of practical life,” 6 Testimonies, p.176.
The Moore FormulaThis sentiment is voiced from several individuals that have experience in educating children. One is Dr. Raymond Moore. He recommends a balanced approach to education, with three areas comprising most of the student’s education: work, service, and study, in equal proportions.
Here is his counsel on what will help a child to learn practical skills:
“Instead of toys, give them tools (kitchen, shop, yard or desk), encyclopedias, magazines; use libraries, etc. Don’t be shocked at their interests, even if they are guns or motorcycles! From these they can learn chemistry and physics (internal combustion motors), economics, math, history, geography, languages, cultures, and manual skills (at local repair shops or in home businesses). Girls are usually a year or so ahead of boys, at least until late teens.
“The ‘antennae’ sprouting from the brains of most students are blocked by mass-education’s cookie-cutter substitutes for life that destroy creativity. Kids come out uniform-sized cookies, or sausages.”You may read more about this tried and true approach to education at the Moore Foundation.As I was gathering my thoughts about this post, I stumbled across an excellent article here (No Greater Joy). It has been years since I have read any of the material from No Greater Joy, but in this article, Michael Pearl shares his perspective on why many young people, boys in particular, drift away to an aimless life. He believes that,
“Boys have a greater need to explore, invent, achieve something objective, conquer, and compete. They have a need to be meaningfully engaged in pursuits that yield objective results, like rebuilding automobiles, painting a house, cutting firewood, building something that others will admire. They are little kings looking to build a kingdom and furnish it. Idleness (including entertainment) breeds self-loathing and wanderlust.” And also, “The child who is not needed as part of the team will gravitate toward loyalties outside the family.”In other words, our children absolutely need to not just feel needed, they need to know they are needed!
The Family Firm
It reminds me of another page from Child Guidance that says we need to “let children feel that they are part of the family firm” (p. 126).
Free money!!A couple of years ago now, my husband did a mulch job for some neighbors. The boys sometimes go along to help out, but this time they didn’t. But, for some reason the gentleman gave my husband a little extra money, designated for the boys, so that they could each purchase a little something.
The funny thing was that, when we trekked out to Wal-Mart to buy their gift, they each chose a garden tool!
I drove them by the neighbor’s house for them to show him what they had chosen with their money, and imagine his surprise when three young boys marched up to the front door with rake and shovels!
He exclaimed, “What’s this? Are you coming to dig a hole?”
They simply told him that the tools were what they had chosen with his money. He really did scratch his head over that one, but several years later, when he needed someone to cover his lawn for a few weeks, he gave the job to the boys with the garden tools!
Tools Trump Toys in real life
So…we can encourage our kids in the areas that they have an interest, and if we help them to build up their stash of tools appropriate for the task, they will not only be better equipped, but they will also sense that they have our support.
Tools Trump Toys for BoysFor (not just) boys, the list is almost endless:
- Garden tools
- Saws, clippers, and pruners, pocket knives
- Toolbox tools: hammers,wrenches, screwdrivers, tape measures, drills
- Power tools
- Photography equipment
- Science tools: microscopes, telescopes, magnifying glasses, ID books
- Rock tumblers, gold pans, metal detectors
- Knot trying and climbing books, rope
- Bike fixing supplies: tubes, wrenches, tire tools
Tools Trump Toys for GirlsFor (not just) girls, all of the above, plus:
- Kitchen essentials: small baking pans, smaller sized oven mitts, aprons, kid cookbooks
- Knitting needles, crochet hooks, and yarn (Knitting looms are fun and an easy way to make hats and scarves.)
- Sewing machine and fabric, simple patterns (Boys like this too! My husband always wanted a sewing machine until someone told him they were for girls. But…what about tailors?)
- Hair cutting supplies
- Books on wild edibles, compass
The list really could go on and on! I think the point is to get ourselves and our children into a mindset of learning useful skills, and to provide equipment and training so that they gain the confidence to pursue their interests.
Happy learning, and go find some tools!p.s. The Lord tested me on this on the very next day after I wrote this article. We planned our “first day of school” for that day, only to find that my husband needed help on a project. I struggled, but realized we could be inside “doing school” with him needing help, or I could let the boys go help. I chose the latter, and what a blessing it was to see them working alongside Daddy — with their own tools! We can still maintain the balance of work/study/service.
Some days are almost all books, and some are more heavy on the service or work. But, I would not trade the experience that they had working with Daddy — it’s real life, and he really did need them!
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- White, E.G. (1954) Child Guidance. Washington, D.C.: Review and Herald.
- White, E.G. (1897) Healthful Living. Battle Creek, MI: Medical Missionary Board.
- White, E.G. (1901) Testimonies for the Church, Volume 6. Mountain View, CA: Pacific Press.
Source: Tools Trump Toys! – SDA Homeschool Families note—I wrote this blog 1 1/2 yrs ago, and all of the images I put in this post I collected from royalty free sites. Images 1-7 & 9 are from stock pictures, but I am not able to track down the original sites to give photo credit. I don’t claim them as my own. Photos 8, 10, and the header are my original photos.
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